Typically, date night is defined as a prearranged occasion when an established couple, especially with children, go for a night out together. I have always loved date night, and I think it is super important to keep relationships fun. I love getting dressed, sipping a couple of adult beverages, and engaging in the conversation.
However, one day I met a woman who told me that she takes herself on dates. I thought it was such an interesting idea. The thought of taking myself out for a beautiful night seemed like a great idea, but it also made me think about why I never planned one for myself. So, I started thinking about how I would feel taking a date night alone. To be honest, many negative thoughts came into my mind about taking myself on a date. I thought that it would be boring. I even thought that I would feel uncomfortable or awkward. But, then a few positive thoughts came to mind like I didn’t have to coordinate with anyone, I could get away from the kids, take a break from cooking and cleaning for my big guys or clear my head. It occurred to me that I could relax, get away from all the demands of being a mom and entrepreneur.
It took months to do, but I finally planned that special date night alone. I needed a moment to get away, and I was ready to take it! There were many people to call, but I needed a moment by myself. I selected one of my favorite restaurants that had a beautiful patio. I made a reservation three days before Friday at 5 pm. On the day of my date, I was excited. I wore a simple outfit, packed my computer, notebook, air pods, and of course, my phone was in hand. I made sure I had everything I needed to keep myself occupied.
I arrived at the restaurant about 5 minutes early. I checked in and was taken to my adorable table. I sat down and looked around and noticed that there were no other tables with just one person. For one second, I questioned my decision to embark on a date night. However, I jumped right in and ordered my favorite cocktail. I won’t bore you with my menu selections, but I enjoyed three fantastic courses starting with my avocado crab salad. I was in paradise as I took a bit of my trout entree. Every dish was divine. In between eating, I caught up with a few select friends on FaceTime, wrote in my journal, did a little work, and listened to some of my favorite music. I was never bored and never worried about being alone. I took selfies, spotted a couple of friends, met a few women, and even celebrated my friend’s second business anniversary on Zoom. It was the perfect dinner, and I did it alone.
It took a little courage, but it felt super nice to treat myself to a beautiful dinner just for me. The conversation was great too (haha)! I think this is one of my new favorite self-love rituals!